Soul Planning and Suicide!

I have previously written a blog post about soul planning/soul contracts here What Are Soul Contracts And Do You Have One?

More recently, I have a renewed interest in this topic.

Soul planning is something I really want to believe in. I take great comfort in the concept. However, because it’s something I want to believe in, I wonder if I am not remaining as objective as I’d like to be.

Why do I find the concept of soul planning so comforting?

Well, you may have seen me mention a couple of times that I lost my partner to suicide.

This isn’t something I’ve written about much. The circumstances leading up to, and after his passing are long and complicated, I could fill a book writing about it all (there’s an idea!).

My point is, my life has taken a completely different path as a result of his death. We’re talking drastic changes. I left my career in corporate, sold my house, and started writing. Writing came from no-where, I’ve never had aspirations to write. I’m quite a private person too, if you’d have told me six months ago that I’d be writing about myself and publishing it, I wouldn’t have believed you.

I’ve met people that I never would have met, and I am heading toward opportunities that never would have presented themselves to me when I was on a different path.

So how does soul planning come into this? Especially considering I’d give my new life path up in a heartbeat if it meant I could get my other half back.

The Role of Soul Planning in Suicide

This is a big topic; one I have been researching for months.

There are some factors to consider on this concept.

• How much free will is involved?
• Can suicide be part of a soul’s contract, or is it breaking the contract?
• If the answer to the previous point is both, how can we determine which applies?
• How much influence could I have had on the outcome?

How Much Free Will is Involved?

I recently heard an interesting viewpoint on free will. That we do have free will but, that’s before we are born into this life. We have complete free will in deciding what we want to experience, complete control over every aspect of our lives, including when and how we die.

This suggests that every decision we make, has already been made. Nothing happens by chance.

I wonder if this means we only have one path in life. This new path that I am on, might not be a new path at all, but a continual path that was inevitable.

I met my other half at a corporate football event. Neither of us are football fans, in fact, I wasn’t going to go. I made the decision at the last minute to attend. Was that decision my free will? I’m starting to believe not. Split decisions in life that we think are random, may have already been pre-determined.

My next question to this is, what forces were at play to influence me? What made sure I went to that football event? Did those same forces ensure there was no intervention with his death?

I don’t have the answers to those questions sadly. There will always be aspects to this that we will never understand while in this three-dimensional lifetime.

Can Suicide be Part of a Soul’s Contract, or is it Breaking the Contract?

Interestingly there are a number of views on this.

For me, the answer to this links to how much free will we actually have.

I quoted Robert Schwartz in my first article on this subject, and I’m going to use the same quote again because I think it’s profound.

Robert Schwartz has written three books on soul planning – Your Soul’s Plan, Your Soul’s Gift, and Your Soul’s Love

Below is a quote I have taken from an article written by Robert Schwartz which you can read here. Your Soul’s Plan: The Deeper Spiritual Meaning of Suicide

“In the Suicide chapter in Your Soul’s Gift, I share the story of Carolyn, whose only child Cameron suicided shortly after he graduated from high school. Carolyn and I had a channelling session in which we spoke with Jeshua (Jesus). Jeshua began by telling us that suicide is never planned prior to birth as a certainty, but it is often planned as a possibility and sometimes as a high probability, as was the case with Cameron. In other words, Cameron knew that he was taking on so much in this lifetime that a suicide was likely.”

“Every suicide preventable by outside forces was indeed prevented.”

Suicide and soul planning has been talked about in many books. Another memorable one for me was My Son and the Afterlife by Elisa Medhus.

During one of the channelling sessions with Erik, suicide was discussed.

Erik took his own life and goes on to explain that it was a part of his spiritual contract he’d written for this life. But he then goes on to say that most suicides are not part of a soul’s plan.

I know for me personally; it gives me greater comfort to believe that all suicides are part of a plan. Some bigger plan that we can’t understand during our time here. That on the other side, there is no judgement or sorrow for this decision. It is simply celebrated as a completed part of soul planning.

How Can We Determined if it Was Planned?

I’m looking for a way to answer this question.

Over the next few weeks, I am due to speak to a number of experts on the subject of soul planning. I hope to gain a deeper insight into this.

Having said that, I’m not sure I’ll ever know the answer to this question for certain. It’s going to come down to belief.

How Much Influence Can We Have?

Anyone who has lost a loved one to suicide will understand exactly what I mean when asking this question.

Logically, you know you cannot change anything. You know that thinking you could have done something differently is a waste of time and thought energy.

Logically you know that but, there are – without doubt – thoughts along those lines. I’ve even played out whole scenarios in my head of what would have happened if I’d have just responded differently during specific conversations.

Or if I’d have picked up the phone at the right time. I have formulated complete scenes in my head of how things could have been different.

I guess this comes back down to free will.

I’d like to know definitively if it could have gone any other way.

You might ask why? I can’t change it.

I can’t really answer that. I believe you’ll either understand where I’m coming from, or you won’t.

Can Understanding Soul Planning Lead to a More Fulfilling Life?

This subheading was the original title for this article.

As soon as I started writing, it went in a different direction. I do want to touch on this though, I believe it directly links. Suicide is just one area of soul planning.

This is where my belief bias comes in. If soul plans exist, I feel more at ease with life and the things that have happened.

It makes me feel like I can sit back and trust the process that is my life. I can let my intuition guide me and know that there are no mistakes.

It would mean that all of our lives are exactly on track. We are exactly where we are supposed to be, doing exactly what we are supposed to be doing.

When you stop worrying about the direction your life should be taking, you start living in a more mindful way.

Anxiety and fear become less. Why be afraid of your path if you’ve already decided it for yourself?